Why do we sometimes say monstrous things to the person we love most in the world? How is it that trying to solve a simple problem ends with two people yelling at each other? Why do we vow to never behave a certain way again and then do it again? Why are loving people afraid to approach each other and avoid conversations on important topics? Conflicts corrode relationships within a couple and make both participants unhappy. The main idea of this book is that negative emotions that have reached intensity - unregulated emotions - are the main problem of conflicting couples. Thanks to special behavioral skills, partners will be able to effectively manage their emotions. This will allow you to more accurately express your feelings and thoughts, understand the motives of behavior, and better understand each other. With enough practice, conflict can be transformed into intimacy - any couple can achieve a trusting, respectful relationship full of peace and support that brings joy and love. Alan I. Fruzzetti