The masochistic character type is one of the most common in our country. For some it manifests itself in the form of individual features, while for others it looks like a reinforced concrete structure: it is so rigid and ossified. In our country it is often customary to be proud of our suffering and how much we can endure or endure. This type of character has been most studied by psychoanalysts. The author’s task is to understand the nature of the formation of this character, to see how the inner world of a masochist works, and also to help understand how the loved ones of a person feel who chooses suffering over and over again. Freedom from emotional violence (and not only) begins with a small step - allow yourself to say: “It’s not about me.” That’s why this is the name of our series of books about consciously leaving toxic relationships, liberation from sick attachments to abusers, and immunity to psychological manipulation. For connoisseurs of psychotherapeutic non-fiction and those who are close to relationships.