Maintaining feelings and relationships, as well as health, is impossible without fundamentally improving the way you think about and experience events in your life. The presented work shows mental operations, the unconscious implementation of which produces feelings of resentment and guilt, typical situations leading to their appearance. Effective methods are proposed to relieve pain and suffering in the event of these emotions. The methods and techniques presented in this publication are developed taking into account the patterns of development and functioning of the human psyche. And their effectiveness has been tested in rigorous psychological studies.