A psychologist Olga Товпеко is a founder of "School of psychology for mothers" and system Living education, that helps parents to develop a sensitiveness to the child. The Инстаграм-блог of author @of olga _ tovpeko is read by almost 130 thousand parents.Relations of parents and children can be happy only at one condition - when there is enough Life in them, and yet freedom and acceptance.A growing child constantly throws up to the parents of task, riddle, and even arranges whole квесты. That, as far as living and creative will be their decision, influences on a great deal, and sometimes and on the fate of child."For 11 of work I paid attention to paradox.All more good and responsible mothers become. They do not press on children, and search approach to them. However children continue to behave badly, become little tyrants. Every parent, no doubt, loves the children. However in relationships with them practically there always is something unbearable. Something, that "takes away a brain", "takes to the pen", compels the system of "клинить". Something, that compels to give out you such reactions, for that is then ashamed both before by a soba and before a child.Here it "something" and is the article of my interest".