“Reading this book, especially if you do all the exercises, will not be easy or comfortable. But I am confident that with some dedication you will realize the benefits of true self-awareness. This book will help you get the most out of any relationship, build a vibrant but controlled emotional life, and also better understand yourself, your strengths and weaknesses." – Joseph Burgo, a psychoanalyst and marriage and family psychologist in practice for over 35 years, Burgo's goal is to help people who don't see a therapist and may not be able to afford one, overcome their dissatisfaction and live a fuller life. In the book you will find answers to the questions: What mechanisms allow us to cope with the negative consequences of painful experiences? How do these same mechanisms deprive us of pleasure and prevent us from developing? Is it possible to “turn off” this self-defense system and learn to manage your emotions more consciously? Burgo not only describes the mechanisms of our psyche, but also presents techniques that help us better understand our own reactions and confront challenges without depriving ourselves of positive impressions. The publishing layout is saved in a4.pdf format.