A book that will help you cope with resentment, reconcile with others and yourself, and live a full life. An expanded edition of a long-standing bestseller that has sold more than 100 thousand copies.

How to survive resentment and betrayal? Is it necessary to be lenient towards someone who has caused pain? And is it possible not to forgive without feeling guilty about it?

For many years we have been taught to forgive because it is “healthy,” “frees the soul,” and in general, “good people should be able to forgive.” . However, this approach places responsibility on the victim. Psychotherapist with 35 years of experience, Janice Spring offers a different perspective.

In this wise and caring book, Janice shares how to gain courage, understand your feelings, and understand that you don’t have to forgive if you don’t want to. You will learn to talk about your feelings and the pain you are experiencing. You will also find many interesting examples and non-trivial recommendations on how to cope with the destructive effects of pain and hatred for the offender. As a result, you will be able to reconcile with others and with yourself, forgiving or not.

This book is for those who want:

- get rid of pain and clear your head of emotional garbage - grievances , anger, disgust and shame;

– free yourself from the bitter and obsessive desire for revenge;

– learn to live in peace with yourself and accept what happened;

– live a full life.

Who is the book for?

For those who want to learn how to cope with emotional pain due to resentment or betrayal of a significant person.

On published in Russian for the first time.