Why is a break so great between aspiring to the changes, both personal and in business, and that takes place actually? Why do changes on that we already decided and even inculcated in the life appear meaningful not enough and lasting? How to carry out changes and where to find forces on their realization?Robert Киган and Лайза of Лейхи answers know for these questions. In the book they offer technology that became a result twenty years of researches and practice of psychologists and teachers, - technology of transforming "languages". Coming you to study own powerful internal reasons to resist to the changes, to find out the hidden "immune system" that compels you to block changes, constantly producing antibodies to them, and to learn to disconnect her, using the new forms of internal speech and interpersonality commonunication.This book for all those, who wishes to change, expose the personality raise, and also for those, who helps in educating and height other.In Russian language published first.