Using examples from the practice of working with family conflicts, the author reflects on the nature and consequences of destructive repetitions in family relationships. Conflict situations in the book are examined from several points of view - a parent, a child, a family psychologist and a neutral observer telling the stories of relationships between “adult children” "with their parents. The book combines stories of real and fictitious characters, an overview of key connections and simple recommendations from the author. The book will be useful for “growing parents” who are faced with the echo of conflicts from childhood and would like to minimize their transmission to future generations. Saved in PDF A4 format publishing layout.