Modern man is characterized by neurotic traits; he is insincere or even deceitful in relationships with others, he has forgotten himself in the cycle of endless everyday problems, he has lost the meaning of life. Modern man is a manipulator, and this is the root of most of his problems. The book by Everett Shostrom, a famous American psychologist, representative of the Gestalt therapeutic school, a student of Fritz Perls, tells how to change your lifestyle, stop being a manipulator, become an authentic person, and find the meaning of life. A free retelling of this work in a very abbreviated form was published in Russian language called "Anti-Carnegie". A complete translation of the book is being published for the first time. It is recommended for specialists who are looking for a real way to provide psychological assistance, as well as for non-specialists who want to independently change their lives and strive for personal growth.