Why don’t new fathers wake up at night when the baby cries, why do they stubbornly ignore the toys scattered around the apartment and try to “dissolve in the fog” when it’s time to change the diaper? Why do young mothers blame their husbands for not helping with their children, and when their husbands try to help, they push them aside? Why do men often go straight to the couch after a working day, while women take up the second shift? Journalist and writer Jancy Dunn is tired of asking herself these questions and constantly quarreling with her husband. She turned to specialists and discussed with them the problems of relationships in married couples with small children and possible strategies for overcoming crisis situations. And I wrote this book. It's about raising yourself and your husband. From which children benefit first of all.