Susan Forward, Joan Torres. Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why (1986)Translation by stellkind ( Each of Those women who have been in misogynistic relationships for a long time have had to make a barter deal: give up part of themselves in exchange for peace in the home. You may have had to give up or slow down a promising career, academic achievements, or other activities that your partner did not approve of. You may also have had to give up people you care about because your partner was jealous of them or saw them as a threat. How amazing will you feel when you realize that there is nothing stopping you from getting back everything that was once dear to you!