One of the most important topics in the life of every man is, of course, relationships with girls. But what kind of relationship can they have with them if most guys in our country are brought up in such a way that they are afraid to approach to get acquainted, not to mention more. Before taking on the problem of “fear of approach”, I monitored everything or almost everything that is on this topic. Basically, these are beautifully packaged information products from people who studied this subject in two days, Skype casts intended to sell their pickup training, quests invented out of thin air, advertising articles... All these works have one thing in common - they were made by non-professionals. Therefore, I am extremely pleased present to you a professional view of this problem, the view of a person who has been doing this for a long time and for whom “fear of approach” is the main theme of successful daily work with clients. Practicing psychologist, psychotherapist, author of the best-selling books “Another Chemistry”, “Beastly Male”Director of CTC “ Burkhan" Denis Burkhaev "