This is the latest large-scale study of toxic relationships, based on the results of work with more than 50,000 patients. Why do we stay in relationships with people who betray, offend or use us? World-renowned addiction specialist and best-selling author Patrick Carnes explains this by saying that there is always a special bond between the victim and the abuser - the “bond of betrayal.” It can arise not only between a man and a woman, but also between a parent and a child, office workers, housemates. You will learn what prevents you from fighting back against someone who makes life impossible, and you will also find clear step-by-step instructions for getting out of a traumatic relationship .This book has already become a reference book for thousands of therapists around the world and has formed the basis of therapy in famous treatment centers and hospitals.