Statistically, Dutch children are the happiest in the world. It is in this country that the author of the book, Nelly Litvak, lives and raises two girls. Being a successful professional, she nevertheless considers one of her main achievements to be a good relationship with her eldest daughter. And psychologists consider trusting relationships in the family as the starting point for favorable personality development. Observing the pedagogical successes and failures of parents and teachers, the family and school life of several generations in Russia and Holland, comparing the traditions of education and upbringing, Nelly Litvak decided to systematize her own methods and accumulated experience and share them with others. This is how this wise, funny and useful book appeared, telling what problems parents of many teenagers face, how to solve them, and most importantly, why communicating with teenagers is interesting and fun and how to do it.