The research of Dr. Edward Tronick and the clinical experience of Dr. Claudia Gold will help you take a fresh look at relationships, both with other people and with yourself.

We often think that the main feature of healthy relationships is harmony. We strive for absolute mutual understanding, because we are sure that this is synonymous with happiness and prosperity. We perceive any disagreements with a partner very painfully, because it seems to us that they mark the beginning of the end.

The famous psychologist Edward Tronick and pediatrician Claudia Gold prove that human interaction is much more complex and confusing than we used to think. From their point of view, conflict is not only necessary, but also extremely important for our social, personal and emotional development. In their book they explain that misunderstandings and fights are inevitable, and overcoming disagreements is the surest path to truly strong relationships with romantic partners, family, friends and colleagues.

Dr. Tronick was one of the first researchers to show how powerful on the child's emotions and behavior of parents. His “stone face” experiment is described in many works on psychology and is used by specialists around the world. This is a clear indication of the role that connection plays for us. However, disagreements with loved ones, be it a parent or a romantic partner, are inevitable; we go through the cycle of “destruction - restoration” every day. And it is by overcoming disagreements that we form deep, long-term, trusting relationships, and become less susceptible to traumatic experience and realize who we are in this world.

Who is this book for? For anyone who is interested in the process of forming, developing and maintaining healthy relationships.

For those who want to understand their style behavior and attitude towards others.

For parents who want to form a healthy attitude in their children towards themselves and with others.

For those who work with children: educators, teachers, doctors.< /p>

For psychologists and psychotherapists, as well as their clients - for introspection and a deeper understanding of themselves.

From the authors This book offers a new look at yourself and your relationships with people. Years of research and clinical trials have been focused on our central question: why do some people have extensive social connections and enjoy interactions while others suffer from loneliness? Why are some sad, withdrawn, have low self-esteem, others are bursting with anger, they are aggressive and act thoughtlessly, and others are happy, inquisitive, self-confident and treat others with warmth and love? How is the ability to feel connected to people, to belong to a human community, related to the development of a sense of self? And perhaps most importantly, how can the answers to questions like these help us find both connection and intimacy, especially when we feel lonely—and everyone has experienced feelings of loneliness and disconnection to one degree or another.

The main thing this book says: breaks, failures, inconsistency in relationships are completely normal processes. If you understand and accept this, your self-awareness and the ability for spiritual intimacy with other people will receive tremendous development. We want you to change your views on relationships and your sense of self in the world. There are many different ways to learn to think differently—there is no one way.