What needs to be done to stop experiencing anxiety, failures in business and personal life, and improve relationships with children and parents? It would seem that something simpler is to stop deceiving yourself, to live in a non-fictional world. But the secret is that to do this we need to find out where, how and why we unconsciously lie to ourselves. If we don’t know anything about our unconscious ancient ways of avoiding emotional pain, then we cannot get rid of them, and they will make us believe in illusions. So let’s learn once and for all, using many examples from real life, to correctly put a comma in “It is impossible to appear to be.”