Relationships between loved ones are usually not as wonderful as they look from the outside. We quarrel, make claims, accumulate grievances for years, inflict and receive mental trauma... All this destroys us, prevents us from maintaining relationships with family, friends and colleagues, and as a result, instead of internal harmony, we feel anger and devastation, and fall into depression. Harriet Lerner, a practicing American psychotherapist and researcher, talks about how to restore relationships with people dear to us even in the most advanced cases. To date, more than six million copies of her books about the psychology of relationships have been sold worldwide.